Being in a relationship is different for everyone. We all act differently when we are part of a couple and in my opinion, we should never compare our relationship with someone else’s. However, there are some general things we can try if we want to learn how to take the ups and downs and have a healthier relationship with our loved ones.
So, let’s learn from the experts and listen to their tips. How can you keep your relationship happy?
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Focus on Your Own Strengths and Happiness First
Before we even enter a relationship it is very important to respect and love ourselves first. We need to know our own values, and goals, and do the things we love. Then, when we do become a part of a romantic relationship with someone, unfortunately, we can easily lose ourselves. So if you don’t want this to happen and affect your relationship, make sure you focus on yourself, your needs, and your wishes. I am not saying you should be selfish, but do not let the relationship and your partner define you and change your values drastically. If you are happy with yourself, you can be sure to have a happy relationship as well.
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Have Open Communication and Be Present
Let’s all admit that this is the first and most important thing to do if we want to keep our relationship happy and healthy. According to research, communication is more important even than commitment.
Without open communication and honesty, a relationship would never survive. The best scenario is when you are honest about your needs and you can speak openly about what bothers you and what are the things that you would like your partner to change. In this way you can all have a nice discussion, express your opinions and try to find a compromise and a solution.
It is also very important to be present at the moment and actually listen. It is a life skill we have to practice more, not just for our relationships. Having someone listening to what you have to say and acting interested and compassionate is very satisfying. Just leave your phone and stop scrolling when your partner wants to talk to you, and be present, listen carefully!
This is the key to a healthy and happy relationship.
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Focus on the Positive Characteristics of Your Partner
Nobody is perfect, but very often, me included, tend to focus on the things we want to change in our partner. Why isn’t he/she more sociable? Why does he/she act like this? Why isn’t he/she more …? All of these questions, focusing on the negative things is not doing any good. Sure, you need to discuss everything openly, but try to focus on the positive side too. This doesn’t mean that you should ignore everything that bothers you, but a different attitude and mindset can help smooth over insignificant conflicts every now and then.
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Small Things Always Count
The way your partner and you talk to each other even if you are together for a lifetime is very important for your relationship. Being polite to each other will go a long way to maintaining mutual respect. So, please and thank you should not be reserved for other people. Saying a compliment is not a bad idea either. It will make you or your partner feel happier and more confident. Saying something like: You look nice today or You smell wonderful is something that can instantly change the atmosphere. Doing it daily will make your relationship stronger and stronger….
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Have Fun Together
It is a truth universally acknowledged that laughter relaxes the whole body and releases endorphins which make you feel happy. Try to laugh more, and have fun! Remember the reason why you started this relationship in the first place, it was having fun together, right?
Research shows that couples who have fun are more satisfied with their relationship/marriage.
Fun brings laughter, engagement, and happiness into your relationship. Spending quality time together while doing something you enjoy will further strengthen your relationship. Exercise together, go on walks, take up a new hobby, cook together, travel, and explore new places. Make new memories together, and enjoy your time!
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Never Go to Bed Angry
Do you know this old saying? ‘’Never go to bed angry’’ and I couldn’t agree more with this one. I am sure each of you had one or maybe more situations when you had a nasty fight before going to bed and you felt like your world is falling apart.
You can still be angry, but at least try to set the intention to talk it through the next day. Don’t insult or say bad words. Just say please let’s talk tomorrow, we will solve this, now it’s not the appropriate time. Believe me, things will be much clearer in the morning!
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Have Sex Every Day (Yes, every day!)
I know it sounds unrealistic, but sex has a great influence on how your relationship feels. Sex strengthens intimacy thus leading to a happier relationship.
Medically speaking sex reduces stress, tension lowers your blood pressure, and improves sleep.
Couples that have sex everyday claim that it doesn’t only make them calmer and happier, but improves their health too.
So, every time you think of an excuse not to do it, think about the mutual happiness and the health benefits too.
